The loss of desire

I will now take each of the dysfunctions one by one and dissect it for your benefit. The first topic that I will take up is loss of sexual desire that is very common among both men and women. Our sexual desire keeps varying throughout the course of our lives however any marked variation can be a cause for concern. It is characterized by a reduction in sexual desire, reduction in procreative activity, no sensuous dreams, and no distraction by erotic material by one or both partners. You can see the signs when you rarely feel like having sex and this causes conflict with your partner. According to a survey about 15% of men in the age group 18-60 are affected by loss of sexual desire. This dysfunction is more commonly associated with women than men.


The associative factors range from low level of testosterone, depression, stress, alcoholism, drug abuse, chronic illness, traumatic past, relationship problems and sexual boredom with a partner. It may also be possible that you have a lower level of sexual desire than your partner. In that case the best advice would be to speak to your partner and come to solution. In order to treat this dysfunction we must concentrate on its causes, which may be physical, medical or psychological

Testosterone plays a vital role in a person’s sexual desire. Any reduction in testosterone in women can be treated through supplementation of the hormone. Many men also suffer from loss of sexual desire caused by a number of physical or psychological circumstances. Loss of facial and body hair, decrease in muscles, fatigue, loss of energy or lethargy, and erectile dysfunction are symptomatic of testosterone deficiency.

Loss of sexual desire can be difficult to treat. Hormonal supplements are suggested if testosterone deficiency is the cause of loss of sexual desire. If your suffer from a low level of sexual desire which is causing problems in your relationship you should visit the doctor for immediate diagnosis. You may also see a shrink if you think it is a psychological manifestation.

In the final analysis the best remedy is precaution or prevention. Never compromise on your sleep as it builds your immune system. In any relationship communication is the key, so speak out your feelings and share your thoughts with your partner. Devise new ways to surprise your spouse, spice up your sex life and never let monotony set in. Learn to be happy and visit a shrink if you are depressed Regular exercise may also increase your sense of well-being and feelings of sexual desire. Lastly, but not the least, please do not use any drug without an expert’s advice as it may aggravate the condition.

The Kingdom of sexual dysfunctions

I will now let an overture to the common sexual dysfunctions as they come.

Loss of sexual desire

It is characterized by a shrinking sexual desire, reduction in procreative activity, no sensuous fantasies, and repulsion to erotic material by one or both partners.

Dyspareunia

Dyspareunia affects women and can differentiated by repeated vaginal pain during sexual intercourse. Pain usually occurs with penetration but can occur even without penetration due to vaginal stimulation. Symptoms may include burning, itching, stinging, or inflammation in any area of the perineum.


Vaginismus

Vaginismus again affects women and is marked with difficulty or pain during penetration due to involuntary contractions of vaginal muscles. It can get so bad at time that women dread any sexual contact.

Anorgasmia

Anorgasmia is another condition typical to women as characterized by a continuous or repeated delay in or lack of orgasm following a normal sexual excitement stage.In this case women may have intense sexual desire or arousal or even enjoy penetration but is unable to climax.

Premature ejaculation

Premature ejaculation affects a man such that he repeatedly ejaculates without much sexual stimulation. He may climax before or shortly after penetration and finds it hard to control it. The man is unable to apply any voluntary control on his ejaculatory response and is unaware of erotic sensations leading to ejaculation.

Retarded Ejaculation

It is the inability in a man to have orgasm or to experience a delayed orgasm. It is persistent involuntary delay in ejaculation.

Retrograde Ejaculation

In retrograde ejaculation a man ejaculates back into his bladder, instead of out through the urethra.


Erectile dysfunction

Erectile dysfunction is also known as impotence. It is defined as the persistent inability in men to attain a hard and stiff erection. There may some who can manage a descent erection but cannot maintain it long enough to perform a satisfying sexual intercourse.

Sexual Dysfunctions, Anyone?

Sexual dysfunction can at times be hard to tackle since it can be traced back to a number of related factors. However, we will begin with asking what defines sexual dysfunction. It is the continuous or repeated incapacity to respond to sexual stimulations normally expected of an average individual. An individual may find it unusually difficult to emotionally or physically acknowledge to sexual stimulus. The sexual response cycle has four phases: excitement, plateau, orgasm, and resolution.Sexual dysfunction can come into play during any stage of the entire sexual cycle.

One of the most rampant sexual dysfunctions is repressed arousal during the excitement stage. This is known as erectile dysfunction or impotency in men or lack of lubrication in women. Drug abuse, certain medications, certain diseases, physical damage, or psychological factors can account for such sexual dysfunctions as inhibited arousal. The contributory factors in sexual dysfunctions are:

Psychological factors comprise various issues such as stress, fear of failure, lack of confidence, performance angst, harrowing sexual experiences pregnancy blues and fear of acquiring sexually transmitted disease

Physiological factors are related to the process of aging, medical conditions such arthritis, diabetes, hypertension, any physical injury, the effects of contraceptive methods, pregnancy, and drug abuse.

Social factors include peer pressure, conflict with a partner, sexual abuse, strict religious background, past traumatic events etc.

Environmental factors include societal influences, gender equality, availability of partners and lack of privacy.

Sexual Problems

You are looking forward to the night with your wife and imagine your sexual rituals but then you become suddenly aware of the reality that it is too much to ask for. It may happen with anybody whether you wish to have sex with yourself or someone else; it may not always happen as planned or without any embarrassment. Sexual problems can be long lasting and related to a number of factors that can be retraced through intelligent examination and observation. These sexual problems influence the private as well as social life of a person as they become an object of ridicule among friends and lose self respect of their spouses if not tackled properly.


Personally, sexuality is an amalgam of the environmental forces that surround us and which can be characterized by family, societal and religious beliefs. It can however be subject to adjustments with wearing out, physical condition and individual understanding. On the other hand, sexual activity is influenced by interpersonal relationships; each person is unique in their approach, expectations and wants from life and therefore must be dealt with open outlook towards a relationship. Any misunderstanding of these aspects could wreak havoc and may lead to sexual dysfunctions.


Sexuality involves a lot of complexities, synchronized by the neuralgic, vascular and endocrine systems. Sexual dysfunctions can be of the type of Inhibited sexual desire (ISD), Dyspareunia, Vaginismus, Anorgasmia among women and Premature ejaculation (PE), Erectile dysfunction (ED) and lack of sexual desire among men.


Sexual dysfunctions can be categorized as that of desire, arousal, orgasmic and sex pain disorders. The physicians and experts must assume a responsible outlook in the diagnosis and treatment of these disorders. Chronic diseases, recurrent ailments, drugs and psychosocial state influenced by any previous physical or sexual abuse, are some of the factors. Proper education and support, with timely diagnosis, are essential for efficient treatment and speedy recovery. With a sympathetic approach towards sexual functioning and intelligent application of general treatments to sexual problems, sexual dysfunction can be uprooted in totality.

Why sex is important?

Sex is important for the human race to survive as it keeps the wheel turning and also releases you from tension and anxieties of daily life. People might take a narrow look at sexual activities and rant about its futility but the fact is it is there therefore it is important. Now the degree of importance may vary from person to person depending on the circumstances.


I would say yes, sex and sexual issues are crucial to ones existence. A friend of mine remarked the other day that if sex were really unimportant then promiscuity would be considered acceptable in our society. Aha! That’s an interesting take on sex.


However, it is scientifically proven that after sex, brains release chemicals that make the couple feel happy and connected and passionately in love with the balance of effect tilting far greater in women. Regular sex brings a couple closer than ever as it involves exploration and sharing of the most intimate desires and secrets of your hear. I helps build closeness and intimacy, relieves stress, gives comfort.


Sex is one of the reasons that people enter into or separate from a relationship. Therefore a terrible sex life with sagging sexual strength, lack of sexual desires, arousal problems or pain sex disorders or playing an absentee husband or a cheating partner can break a relationship. Some people prefer frequent sexual revisits; some people can be categorized as weekly and some still as moody. These differences can cause problems. The key is to understand the needs of each other. Sex may not be the valedictorian among factors governing our relationship but it is an important step to our general well being.


Sex provides a definitive expression to love that is otherwise difficult to express in few words. It gives meaning to a couples love.

Take care

Body is the only home you’ve got. In the modern era of mad rush and sky-high expectations we are, mindlessly enthusiastic ignoring our health and vigor. The materialistic ambitions give us momentary sense of satisfaction, which we are subliminally aware to be incomplete and incongruous. As a matter of fact it is extremely important to have the wealth you need and desire but not at the cost of your well-being.

With the advent of information technology and Internet barriers have disappeared and horizons widened. Health issues are not confined to your private domains now; rather they are discussed in public, on radio, on TV, in journals and your morning newspapers, on websites, in chat rooms and blogs. The increase and reach of these media has given an unprecedented boost in health education. People are more aware of their bodily functions and are willing to discuss their problems with family as well as strangers. This, though, can be attributed to the anonymity factor that the modern media bring with them.

It wouldn’t be hard for me to guess what wonders the modern development has done to the field of medical sciences and public health. However, I will limit my scope to the sexual health of human being. It wasn’t too long back that sex word was a taboo. People kept their problems to themselves and devised ways to get out of their, so thought, embarrassing situation. Then tides turned and sex was introduced to our drawing rooms, classrooms, playgrounds and beds.

Sexual activism had sprouted after centuries of repression and ignominy. It had been quite evidently forcing its way into the capitalistic fabric of our society and its new avatar was ready for exploitation. People now demand their sexual enlightenment; they have transcended their age-old hypocrisy. They are willing to learn more, share more and in the process enhance their sexual well being. Gender differences are integrating and feminism has been surpassed by sexual activism.

This blog is a dedicated to this sexual activism and will endeavor to bring to its readers all the news and dope it can gather. The purpose of this blog is to educate people on sexual matters and assist in finding the right remedies. It intends to share and propagate new information on sexual health through random discussions and Internet research.

It’s a good load of introduction to start with and wont bore you guys any longer. I will return with the first write up on sexual well being shortly.